Today we are going to chat about tolerance. Each day we tolerate people or situations that we may or may not agree with. Im even sure that from time to time, when we tolerate something we do not agree with, we end up having a pit or nasty feeling within our stomachs. Along those same lines, if we continue to tolerate situations, people, or things that we do not agree with, tolerating them often becomes easier, even though the situation may not be right. Tolerance is a tricky thing. For me, personally, I know that I have tolerated situations or people because I was afraid of facing the person, or the truth. It may have been easier for me to keep my mouth shut, rather than face the matter head on. Funny thing is, in the end, I always tend to feel lousy. I feel like I have been eaten alive, from the inside out. Well, have no fear, I think I have a plan to deal with tolerating people or things without creating drama, or hurting feelings, or worse yet, hurting oneself. To get started, we need to realize that people generally don’t hurt other people on purpose. Telling a lie, hurting feelings, or stimulating negative emotions are typically reactions generated out of fear. Someone may tell a lie because he or she may be afraid to tell or deal with the truth. With that being said, it may be easier for us to understand why someone may lie, or be hurtful. On the flip side, we have every right to protect ourselves, and our inner gears from being hurt. We have the right to know that someone has hurt you, but we don’t have to deal with or TOLERATE the negative behavior. We have the right to make amends with the person at hand, but then we can move on from this person, or situation, so further hurt does not take place. Yup, it is that simple. Know or try to understand where this person is coming from, but also know that you have the right to protect yourself, and remove yourself from the matter. This way, no grudges or angry feelings are cultivated and allowed to manifest.
Today’s activity: tolerance
By definition: permissive; accepting beliefs or ideals of others
Today I encourage you to open your heart, mind, and eyes to the tolerance that you put accept from others. These situations may be good or they may be not so good, but they are what they are, just for today, take note of them. Then, over the next couple of days, try and pinpoint the situations are not so favorable to you, and see how you may be tolerating someone or something that goes against your personal moral or value system. These are the situations you need to decide whether you want to stay within or move on. Whatever your choice is, try and come to turns with why you have been tolerating this person or matter, and offer forgiveness. Know that if you walk away from the matter, you will not hold a grudge or be anger. Know that you have to take care of yourself, and know that even if you feel uneasy about the situation today, over time, you will feel better, because you remained true to yourself and chose not to tolerate a poisonous situations. Know that you in any situation, you must….TAKE CARE OF YOU, and everything will be alright!
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