Life is crazy, each and every day, pretty much for all of us. The days of lounging, and relaxing seem to be long gone, because we are all bogged down with jobs, and kids, and family, and house chores, and pretty much every thing else that falls into our path. We often feel overwhelmed, leaving us with no energy, and the lack of direction for which way to turn. Truly, living a happy life, is all about balance. While there is alway going to be SOMETHING that comes up in our life that will stress us out; auto repairs, bills to pay, a disagreement with our significant other, the key to dealing with these issues, is to overcome them with grace. True balance in life, means even, or peaceful feelings about the major areas of our life; profession, personal relationships, health, money, spirit, etc. If we feel balance amongst all of these key areas in our life, we are apt to feel more happy, and less stressed. Saying this, and acting on this are two different things, of course. In addition, I understand overcoming obstacles with ease is not always easy, but one has to start somewhere. While going through some very stressful times a few years back, I had to figure out a way to overcome obstacles with ease, otherwise, I was sure to lose my mind! For starters, worry. I found myself worrying about everything and nothing....what for? It was crazy. To put a spin on worry, I decided to look at the entire picture. I imagined the worst outcome of a particular situation. If I could manage the worst case scenario of this situation, and not lose my mind, then I knew I would be fine. Yes, this is kind of a mind game, but it works! In my situation, I was going through a horrible divorce. My ex-husband placed continual threats upon me, saying that he was going to take my daughter away from me. This made me insane. I was SO fearful of losing my child. I literally worried morning, noon and night. I knew I was an awesome Mom, and I knew that I did my best to love and nurture my child, but who knew if the courts would see things differently. I was scared out of my mind. It was not until my attorney looked me straight in the eyes, and said..."Michelle, you are a great Mom, and NO ONE is going to take your daughter away from you", did I feel a sense of relief. I felt so much more at peace after she said that to me, and this statement gave me the power and strength to move on. Did the threats from my ex-husband stop? No, they never did, however, my perspective on how I dealt with the situation did. Even though he placed horrible threats on me, I knew, in my heart, that I was doing my best, and that no one was going to take my baby away from me. Emily is now 14 years old, and her dad, my ex-husband, recently passed away. I am happy to say, that my baby girl was never taken away from me!
Today's activity: creating balance
Creating balance is not an easy things to do, trust me! I know that obstacles present every day in life....little bumps in the road. I know it is difficult to deal with these bumps. The key to overcoming obstacles, and maintaining balance is to know, in your heart and mind, that you can manage through life with grace. When a situation arises, imagine the WORST case scenario, the worst outcome. If you know that you can handle the worst scenario, then you are fine. That is not to say that the situation will be any easier to deal with, but knowing that you can deal with the outcome, no matter what it is, will relieve some stress. After all, I am a firm believer that God does not give us more than we can handle, and 90% of what we worry about, never really come true. Therefore, lighten up, and create balance!
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